Dialogue

Me: Jack, you know this behaviour is insupportable, you cannot go on that way, being mean to that boy. Has he done something to you?

Jack: I cannot stand him, makes me sick.

Me: You know that is not his problem, it is yours. People who behave like that are insecure.

Jack: What?

Me: That is a behaviour that people engage in when they feel threatened. They are mean to someone because they either feel jealous of that person for some reason, they are seeking attention from others by singling him/her out, or repeating a behaviour that they learned from another bully.

Jack: Are you blaming me?

Me: I am just telling you that you have some problems you should take care of. Because you’re making others suffer.

Jack: So it is all my fault.

Me: if I were you I would go to a psychologist, you do not see what you are going through, but this situation must stop. And in the future, when you realise, you will feel guilty and ashamed.